A Visit to The Kid’s Play Place
My daughter and I (and her purple mushroom stuffy) visited a kid’s indoor play place this week. About 30 minutes into our visit, during her second climbing adventure, there was an announcement over the loud speakers – a live kid’s show was about to begin.
We made our way to the stage, slowly, as my daughter stopped to play at the different stations. Once we got close enough that she could see the performers, and more importantly for her the other little kids sitting around the stage, she ran over to join the audience. She sat crossed legged, head tilted back, eyes fixed on the 4 adults on stage.
It wasn’t a play, it was a sort of interactive silly antics show – with the actors pretending to be “dinosaurs, “flying a kite”, “fishing”, etc. Their motions, sounds, and facial expressions were all exaggerated – getting the little kids laughing.
As the silly antics went on on stage, I looked around at the audience. I was surprised, though I shouldn’t have been, to see my daughter was one of the oldest children there. She starts kindergarten this fall, so most kids older than her would be at school.
My heart felt a heaviness at this reminder – my mothering days are about to change permanently and significantly. And really they already have – a few short years ago I was one of those Moms sitting next to my Goldfish chopping toddler with a squirming baby in my lap. There was a sense of loss, and a sense of longing. My husband and I have always agreed we’d have 2 kids, maybe three…but not 4. So maybe that could be me again, just one more time. But now-a-days, more often than not, we both agree we like our life now with our 2. Still it’s an unanswered question, that doesn’t spin in mind as often as it once did, but which I’m yet to find a peace about.
Mind’s Wanderings (Babies & Toddlers)
Unsurprisingly, and especially since I didn’t go with a Mom friend, my brain didn’t stay grounded for long. As I observed the little one’s all around me….I noticed one little boy. I’d guess he was just under one. He sat with one small plastic triangle and one small plastic square shape with holes in the middle. These 2 shapes, not the action on stage, were the main event for him. He waved them, dropped them, picked them up, moved one from one hand to the other, moves them towards his mouth, puts his hand through the triangle, and stared at them. His motions were big and clumsy. He seemed happy and in moments proud of his accomplishments (maybe catching a surprised look and smile from Mom), but his face more often expressed deep concentration and pondering.
I found the little guy adorable and his intense focus fascinating. We were all once just like this, learning with each motion and experience who we are, what we can do, and how the world works.
Next my attention was pulled to a wobbling toddler who was beelining it to the stage. He was probably just over one year old. More falling forward, and moving his legs, then walking (the new walker lean). When he got to the steps at the bottom of the stage, he quickly crawled up them. It was at this point his Mom hopped up and hurried over to fetch him.
He was already up on his feet again wobbling around the stage, grinning up at the performers, who of course were all smiling and greeting him. His Mom scooped him up, and he had a huge toothy smile on his face the whole way back to his “seat”. Mom was smiling too, but seemed slightly embarrassed, as she made her way back to their seat. There was a soft laugh from the other mothers and grandmas in the audience – Oh, how we all understood! The other little kid’s seemed unfazed, maybe they were too young to have yet formed rigid expectations of the world.
I found the room’s energy around this incident light and joyful. Understanding & accepting. All were welcome.
Mind’s Wanderings (God)
These observations, brought my thoughts to something that often arises around children, “What if this is how God sees us?”. What if from His perspective we never leave this baby/child state – we aren’t growing to become even close to similar to Him (like our child grow and become adults like us)? What if all our “wisdom”, “intelligence”, “accomplishments”, “creativity”, “technology” ,“physical feats”, “morality”, “science”, etc. – what if God just sees the little boy sitting with the 2 shapes?
Clearly working hard, clearly passionate, giving it our all, and learning but it all being more adorable than impressive. What if in our moments of pride, he feels happy for us and proud like a mother clapping and saying “you did it” to a toddler? What if He finds our attempts to be like him – moving and cute and smiles like we do when a little girl does her own makeup and says she looks “like Mommy”.
And furthermore, what if the little guy who had to be fetched from the stage – is how God views “sin”. Something to be corrected, but with a softness and understanding. God races up to us with a smile and firm but soft hands, carrying us back to our “seat”. Maybe saying some gentle and guiding words like “We need to sit right here. I can’t let you on the stage; the stage is for the performers.” Other people who saw the “sin”, like the audience, either don’t notice or watch on with mature heart’s who understand “oppsies, it happens to us all”. What if the “evils” and “sins” of humanity are viewed this way by God? The little guy with the shapes, having a “rebellious” or confused moment.
What Would This Mean?
As I sat there my mind mixing all the thoughts and feelings this thought experiment provoked, I wondered what if this is true…what would that mean for me and how I view myself and others?
It certainly is humbling. All my hard work and effort, feels like hard work and effort. My accomplishments and failures feel big, and some feel deep in impact. My creativity, the beauty I add the world, feels like my attempt at God’s flowers or a sunrise. Maybe God’s eyes light up when He sees my creative projects, but then He goes and “hangs it on the fridge” – like I do with my children’s art – saying “good job baby”.
Maybe we are just forever babies and toddlers in the eyes of God. Adorable, emotional, clumsy little messes, doing their best to be like the BIG GUY. Maybe God never expects us to achieve what He does, but He finds the efforts endearing and beautiful. Maybe He encourages our efforts to grow, into slightly more advanced babies. He celebrates “our big steps” with us.
How humbling! But how beautiful!
Maybe when we misunderstand who we are, we overlook the full beauty of God’s love – how someone so unimaginably big could unconditionally love & care for someone so unimaginably and permanently small. If we understood this better, maybe accepting and tolerating our own (& others) “smallness”, limitations, and mistakes would come more naturally. Also maybe caring for the needs of all would come more naturally too. We’d remember we aren’t loved because we are BIG, we are BIG because we are loved. Like our little babies are.
*(These thought experiments also left me wondering by the use of “His” for God, do we sometimes overlook how I imagine “His” love to truly be – which is simply LOVE. On Earth we talk about Father’s love and Mother’s love – but I imagine those loves are merely aspects of God’s love which is somehow BOTH.)*